Pregnancy is supposed to be the happiest time of a woman’s life and of a couple’s relationship. Sadly, for some, the pregnancy doesn’t make it to full term, resulting in a miscarriage. This can be the result of a myriad of medical conditions. Modern medicine is advancing daily to successfully reduce the chances of a miscarriage, but there are aspects of this devastating loss which too often go untreated. There is an emotional trauma that settles over the couple, especially the woman, during the aftermath.
When this tragedy befalls a woman, it is only natural that she goes through the five stages of grief. These stages are denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. During this time, it is important to keep a strong support system of family and friends to help share in the pain. You don’t have to carry it alone. You have people who love and care for you. Depression can be the most difficult of these stages since it is the last one to endure before acceptance.
Recovering from depression can take time, but you will see the bright days ahead. There are different options available to treat depression. The most common option is to take antidepressants. If you’d rather try a more natural treatment for your depression, you can also sign yourself up for sessions of psychotherapy to help you cope with your emotions.
During this difficult time, it is also common to feel stressed. A stillbirth can be classified as a traumatic event that causes extreme stress. If you find yourself feeling highly stressed or suffering from anxiety attacks, it would be beneficial to seek professional counseling. Sharing your feelings with family and friends can help immensely as well. Some healthy activities to help you cope and relieve stress would be yoga classes, jogging, taking up a creative hobby, or learning an instrument.
While you’re dealing with all of the stress and grief, it’s easy to neglect yourself. Almost all women who miscarry begin to blame themselves and succumb to a feeling of failure. This results in low self-esteem and refraining from self-care. It is important to know that you are not to blame. This tragedy does not diminish your value as a person, as a woman, or as a partner. You should do something for yourself at least once a day to keep your spirits lifted and learn to love and cherish yourself again.
A miscarriage doesn’t just affect the woman. It can also affect the partner. They also lost a child. It is crucial not to lose sight of the love you have for one another. Surviving a stillbirth requires the communication and presence of both partners. Don’t repress your emotions. You need to share during this difficult time. Cry to one another, lean on one another, and, most importantly, grieve together to properly heal.
On the journey of life, there will be many difficult times. Some times won’t just be difficult. They’ll be devastatingly traumatic. No matter how dark of times you encounter, always remember that as long as there is life in you, there is hope.